Thursday's Parent/Teacher meeting

We had a parent/teacher meeting last Thursday.  I just wanted to hear what the therapist and teachers had to say about Trent's progress.  They feel he is making good progress, but couldn't really tell me if they think that he is "catching up" with other children the same "birth age".  You know, I really hate asking that!  I mean not only is my child expected to progress, he is expected to progress at super speed to "catch up".  I think that Trent should not be expected to work harder or be expected to "catch up".  At his age four months development is alot still.  Like when we went to the child psychologist she said "wow, you are 3 and 3/4 now".  But this same professional told me to quit adjusting his age, that he is three now and I shouldn't be counting him in monthly increments.  That's funny...isn't saying "3 3/4" measuring in monthly increments?  If not, why did she mention the 3/4 of a year?  And if monthly increments are being used then shouldn't I still be adjusting his age by the same measurements?  The system wants to work it both ways.  They adjust his age when I want to try new medications or when I request a treatment, but when they evalutate him they use his birth age.  Strange how that works.  And WIC and SSI want to count him by his birth age even though he didn't qualify for their services while he was in NICU.  So in essence he gets shorted 5 months (almost half a year's) benefits.  I know I'm ranting, but this double standard stuff really gets under my skin!